Dear Lauren,

"Reply quickly before I lose the girl I care about.
Hi i have this thing with a girl I really like. All, we ever do is hook up we never have sex just make out and things of that nature. I would really like to have a relationship with her but she says she's not sure of me because all we ever do is physical things.

I was wondering if you could give me some advice on what I can do to prove to her that I'm not just trying to get into her pants. One other problem is she has feelings for another guy who lives far away. She barely sees him they just write and talk on the phone and i was wondering if you could help me out. I really do like this girl and I care about her. I don't want to lose her...Mr.Romance"

Lauren's Reply:

Dear Mr. Romance,

Let’s start off by being honest. Even if you do really like this chick, you are a male and a human and you do want to get in her pants…I am sure pretty badly too. And whether you want to admit it or not, all that kissing and rubbing is sure to chafe even the biggest “ego.”

But you can like a girl and want to be sexual with her too; it is hard to find but those two qualities CAN co-exit in a woman, and it is not a bad thing to want to be physical with someone you care about. The trick is making her feel cared about as well and not just wanted. Women tend to think that if you try to get in her pants, that you don’t want to get in her head and get to know her. You have to prove her wrong.

The first step is, unfortunately, holding back physically, with everything from a graze of her leg, to holding her hand. Make her earn even your slightest touch; make her want to accidentally bump into you just to remember what you feel like. Women are creatures of imagination and once a girl is intrigued or left curious, she will come to you with desire and with respect– a dual win for you. Desire and respect are what make women drop their inhibitions, and most of the time, their pants.

If you are doing it right, you should be acting the same emotionally and mentally, just restraining the physical part thus making her want to be touched, and thinking “wow, he is such a great, chivalrous guy. He likes me and deserves to be with me now.” Sometimes it takes a drought to make people want rain. Sometimes it takes hunger to make someone appreciate food. Sometimes it takes no touch, being numb for awhile, to feel again.

And don’t worry about that other guy. He is on the other side of the phone line; you are on the other side of the table from her. If you are patient and make her understand your intentions through playing a little game called “hard to get,” you will be the one she keeps close by and him, far away where he belongs.

-Lauren


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