Just as each woman has her unique motives and needs, depending on
factors such as her experiences, age, maturity level and intelligence,
there are a million different directions I could go with this topic.
However, for the sake of keeping things simple, I am going to write
what I believe most women generally want and look for in their
relationships with men.
Of course, there are the obvious things..... Good looks, clever wit,
sense of humor, intelligence, sexual chemistry, a nice car... These
things can help make a man more attractive.
On a deeper level, it is important to recognize that women are natural
planners by instinct. We are looking out for the future of our family
and ourselves. Finding a good long term partner who will be a decent
husband and provider is usually what we are searching for. Again,
this can mean different things to different women, but there are three
basic categories which are most important. They are health, family,
and money.
Men who are physically fit and take care of themselves are usually in
better health than those who do not, which is why physical attraction
is so important to us. Caring for your appearance means that you care
about your health.
Men who are emotionally supportive, and care about our well being,
showing random acts of kindness and generosity, making us feel cared
for and not taken for granted will help create a stable family
environment for us and our children. This is a good reflection of
their family values. In any successful relationship, communication,
honesty and trust are the most important foundation. Men who are
dishonest, lie, or cheat, threaten our future and are a great risk in
all three of the categories but especially to the family.
Men who are able to earn money create a sense of security. It is nice
to not have to worry about financial issues. They are able to support
us and our children without difficulty and that is very important to
us.
These are basic factors in the process of natural selection. My point
is that the ideal man is able to fill each of these criteria to be
considered a suitable mate. If he is too weak in one area, he may not
be worth our time. Weak men are easy to spot with experience and should always be
avoided.
My advice to the men out there is to treat all women with respect.
Take care of your health. Have serious career goals. Talk openly
about what you are thinking. Do not lie and keep secrets. Be honest
with women and be honest with yourselves. Best wishes to everyone in
2005!